Let It Out— the book

A New Book from PAIRS Foundation

Let It Out is a powerful new guide to healing emotional pain, reconnecting with others, and reclaiming the capacity to love and be loved. Rooted in the groundbreaking work of Dr. Daniel Casriel and expanded through decades of PAIRS Foundation experience, the book offers practical tools for expressing deep emotions safely, rebuilding trust, and transforming the legacy of trauma. Whether you're a therapist, chaplain, partner, or individual on a path to healing, Let It Out invites you to move beyond survival—and toward connection.

Let It Out— the experience

Let It Out Weekend Retreats are immersive, heart-opening experiences designed to help individuals and couples clear out emotional clutter and rediscover what truly matters in their lives and relationships. Rooted in the evidence-based practices of the PAIRS (Practical Application of Intimate Relationship Skills) model, these retreats are a soulful blend of education, emotional healing, and connection. Participants are guided through structured, experiential exercises that provide a safe space to express suppressed emotions, break free from old patterns, and reconnect with their authentic selves—and with those they love.


Over the course of the weekend, attendees learn and practice powerful tools such as the Emotional Jug, Daily Temperature Reading, and Confiding techniques. These tools don’t just stay at the retreat—they become lifelong skills for navigating life’s ups and downs with more grace, empathy, and emotional honesty. The “Let It Out” experience is often described as transformative: tears are shed, laughter is shared, and burdens that may have been carried for years begin to lift. It’s not about fixing people; it’s about freeing them—freeing them to love more deeply, live more authentically, and relate more joyfully.


If you're ready to lighten the load, rediscover passion, and build connection from the inside out, Let It Out could be the weekend that changes everything.

Frequently Asked Questions

Some of the most common questions and answers about Let It Out intensives:

Is this therapy?

No. Let It Out is not psychotherapy, diagnosis, or clinical treatment. It is a facilitated emotional expression and bonding practice rooted in the work of Dr. Daniel Casriel. While it can be deeply healing, it is not a replacement for licensed mental health care.

What kind of people benefit from Let It Out weekends?

Let It Out is especially helpful for people who:

  • Struggle with emotional numbness or suppression
  • Grew up in families where feelings weren’t welcome
  • Carry grief, rage, fear, or longing that feels stuck
  • Long for deeper connection, authenticity, and love

Modules have been adapted for youth, couples, veterans, addiction recovery, LGBTQ+ individuals, healthcare workers, families, and more.


What if someone cries, screams, or gets overwhelmed during a session?

That’s okay. These are natural responses to emotional access. Facilitators are trained to help participants regulate, ground, and integrate without shame or pressure. The group holds presence—not solutions.


Can this be done online?

Yes—with adaptations. While in-person work allows for more somatic connection, virtual Let It Out sessions can be powerful if:

  • Participants have privacy and headphones
  • Grounding tools are in place
  • Facilitators offer clear verbal guidance
  • Safety plans are established


How is this different from breathwork, primal therapy, or somatic work?

Let It Out overlaps with these modalities in its focus on embodiment and emotional release but is grounded in:

  • The New Identity Process by Daniel Casriel
  • Bonding-based healing through human connection
  • Structured need expression and group witnessing

It is not driven by altered states or performance, but by authenticity, regulation, and relational healing.


What if I don't feel anything during a session?

That’s completely normal. Emotional reconnection takes time. Just showing up and staying present is part of the process. Numbness, resistance, or uncertainty are also valid experiences.


How can I learn more or get involved?

Attend a Let It Out workshop or training

Read Let It Out by Seth Eisenberg or works by Dr. Daniel Casriel

Contact PAIRS Foundation

Do I need to be trained to facilitate this?

Yes. Emotional expression work requires skill in holding space, navigating trauma sensitivity, and ensuring emotional safety. Facilitators should complete relevant training in Let It Out, bonding-based practices, or a closely aligned modality, and maintain ongoing supervision or peer support.

Why do so many people scream or repeat needs?

Many people have internalized the belief that expressing need or strong feeling is unsafe, weak, or unacceptable. Screaming (done safely) and need repetition offer structured ways to release suppressed emotions and reclaim emotional voice. These practices are always optional and consent-based.


Can this be harmful or re-traumatizing?

If done without sensitivity or support, yes—like any emotional work, it can be misapplied. That’s why Let It Out emphasizes:

  • Trauma-informed facilitation
  • Clear consent and pacing
  • Grounding and integration
  • Never forcing expression

The goal is not catharsis for its own sake, but emotional honesty with support.


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